You’re moulding your world around you

When you think a thought, more thoughts like it are drawn to you, and more people, situations and experiences that are on a similar wave length. So as you think you’re literally creating your world around you, moulding the people, situations and circumstances that are coming into your life.


The way you think is shaping your world.

Thinking is life’s creative clay. Our ability to think is what is moulding and shaping our reality into our experiences. If your thinking is anxious, you will create more feelings of anxiety. If your thinking is negative, you will create more negativity in your life. If in your thinking you’re doing a lot of complaining, you will create in your life more things to complain about. You have to learn to think to yourself in a softer and more positive way.

The best way you can learn to become a more positive thinker, is by spending 15 minutes every day practicing thinking positive thoughts to yourself. Just get yourself comfy, either sat or lay down, and firstly take a few deep breaths. Once you’ve done that, now scan your body to release all the tension from your muscles. Now begin to list in your mind, over and over, things that you’re grateful for. ”I appreciate my… I’m so grateful for… I love to feel…’‘. Just keep finding positive thought after positive thought. It may be a little bit slow and forced at first, but you will get better and better and start to gain momentum.

By doing this regularly you will start to become much more disciplined in your mind and thoughts. You will start to become more aware of when your mind slips into complaining, or when it is generally getting more negative, and then you will get better at being able to talk yourself back to a more positive state of mind.

Little changes in your thinking will create massive shifts in your life.

Think positively. Think constructively.


Celebrate life.

We should all do this a little more. Sometimes I think we all fall into the trap of taking ourselves and life too seriously. At times it’s important to just stop and remind ourselves that life is supposed to be fun, that life isn’t supposed to be serious, and that we should try to enjoy our day to day experience a little bit more.

Moving forward in our lives let’s make it our goal to celebrate the simplicity of life. Even if you’re at work, even if you’re doing chores all day that you’d rather not be doing, just smile and be grateful to just be here experiencing life. When you stop and reflect and think about it, things are never as bad as they seem. One thought that I try to remind myself when my mood dips is that no matter how I feel right now, there are still millions of people all over the world who would rather be in my shoes. No matter how bad it seems, there are still people worse off.


Meditation changed my life.

Looking back over the years since I first became interested in the idea of meditation I feel very grateful for how much it has helped me as a person and how positively it has impacted my life. Before I began, I was always on edge and anxious, and very quickly got frustrated and annoyed if things didn’t go my way. At the time if I was asked I would have considered myself a pretty happy person, and I think others would have described me that way too, but deep down I was unsatisfied.

My interest in mediation was first sparked by listening to a number of interviews with successful athletes and entrepreneurs who spoke about meditation as part of their daily routine. Something clicked and it really intrigued me as to what it was all about and whether at the time it could help me with my performance as a golfer. During this time I learnt that my Grandad before he passed away had started to meditate all the time. After many more months of researching and listening to people talk about meditation and the varying kinds, I really became serious about making it a new daily habit of mine. From that moment on I decided to keep it simple and just commit to spending 15 minutes every day in meditation, even if I just sit still for that time, and I have done so since that day.

When I look back I can really see how much it made me start to look more within myself. It made me start to really reflect on who I am as a person and what I want to create with my life. It helped me to recognise and look at my strengths and weaknesses, and how I could improve as a person. It also made me much calmer, less anxious, and much more patient with life and others around me. I think the biggest thing I’ve found is how much it has helped me to recognise how many things there are to be grateful for in life and to really appreciate this beautiful world that we live in.

Over recent years since that day I’ve experimented with many different types of meditation, right the way from transcendental meditations, to simple breath and body meditations. What I’ve found best as a suggestion to the people I’ve worked with is to keep it short and simple, but to be consistent. Below is a really simple meditation exercise for you to try.

Firstly set a timer for 15 minutes and then get yourself comfy, either sat or lay down, in a place where you aren’t going to be disturbed. Start by taking some really long, deep breaths for about 20 – 30 seconds. Now begin to calm and slow your breath right down. Begin to breathe as calmly and as quietly as you can for the next 1 – 2 minutes. Now take your attention into your body and begin to scan your body for tension. Start by scanning your feet, releasing all the tension from your muscles, and begin to work your way right up your body to your face and the top of your head. Now become aware of your body as a whole, feel it tingling with energy and again make sure there is no tension or holding on in any muscles. Now bring your attention back to your breath. As you breathe in count slowly from 1 – 4, and as you breathe out count slowly from 1 – 4. 

When you wake up you should feel very relaxed and refreshed. Enjoy giving yourself this time to switch off completely, physically and mentally. Meditation really has brought so many positive benefits to my life without having to even try. I’m sure it will do the same for you too.


Dream big. Start small.

Don’t be scared to dream big, but you got to start small. Don’t get lost trying to create a massive vision of what you want without getting practical and putting it into action one step at a time. If you’ve got a big goal or vision, you’ve got to break it down and build a step by step process of how you’re going to get there. You’ve then got to get practical and start working through those steps one at a time. Too many people, especially young people who think they can do anything, have a big vision, but quickly become overwhelmed because they have no real process outlined in terms of how they’re going to do it. I think it’s great to have push yourself to build big and wonderful things with your life that can help and bring value to the world, but you’ve got to get practice in terms of how you’re going to do it. Remember nothing happens over night. It takes consistent action over a long period of time (making small improvements every day) to create anything big. This applies to business or sport.

So reach for the stars. Really get clear on who you are, how you can bring the most value to the world, and what you would really like to create with your life. Then get practical about how you’re going to do it.


Go with the flow.

I’ve found (through years of trying to force life!) that the secret to feeling more content and at peace within yourself is to simply not resist anything that happens. Life is never unfair. Life is always trying to give you the experiences that you need most in order to help you learn and grow into the person that you’re desiring to be. The challenges that you face, are trying to help you. Don’t resist them. Don’t fight against life. You have to learn to flow with life. You have to learn to accept the situations that are coming into your life, learn from them, move on stronger because of them, and then let them go. If you resist and push against life, you will create nothing but pain for yourself, and you will be in a constant battle that you will never win. You’ve got to learn to flow with life and then the next steps of your life will begin to fall into place for you. If you don’t accept and learn from the challenges that life is giving you, your life cannot evolve and grow. Life will keep giving you the same or similar situations until you learn the lesson that you need to learn.

You have to accept, learn, and move on stronger with love and gratitude in your heart.


Just keep improving.

To grow you must face the things that you fear most. Don’t shy away from what scares you. Don’t shy away from your weaknesses. Get in its face. Rehearse it. Practice it. Show yourself that you can do it and it will no longer scare you. Then move on to the next thing. Just keep learning and improving.

Working on and improving yourself is one of the most satisfying things you can do that will make you feel much more at peace within yourself.